Trying to work your way back into someone’s life who you’ve hurt is quite possibly the most difficult thing to do in this world.
Trust is very difficult to build, but so easy to break.
The person you hurt – they don’t owe you anything. They don’t owe you the common decency to return your calls, answer your texts or even acknowledge your existence. You lost the right to those privileges when you hurt them.
And for the person who did the hurting, we feel a mountain of guilt. It‘s on our conscious every day, we feel regret, and the remorse lies deep within our soul.
We look back and think, “Damn…WTF was I doing?”
And no matter how much people will tell you this beforehand, you always find yourself saying…”You don’t really know what you have until you don’t have it anymore.”
And as much as we want to, we can’t go back in time. We CAN’T fix things by just saying sorry…
But what we CAN do is admit to our mistakes, truly apologize to those we’ve hurt, and strive to be a better person today.
You have to re-prove yourself through every opportunity you get with consistent actions to show that your character is different & you’re truly a changed person – show them with your actions, not your words.
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You see, one thing I’ve learned is that it is never too late to seek forgiveness, acceptance and understanding.
It is never too late to reach out to that person, make yourself vulnerable, and open your soul to them.
Sometimes they may give you an opportunity to work yourself back into their life, but other times they won’t. This is a risk you have to take if you feel the fact of losing them is greater than the risk of putting your own emotional being on the line.
But if you feel the risk is worth it, reach out to them. Make yourself vulnerable. Pick up the phone and call them.
Say sorry first.
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The sad part is, we’ll continue to hurt people in our lives – no matter how much advice we get. It’s in our nature to not take the time to smell the rose we have in front of us.
BUT the amazing part is that you always have the opportunity to let go of your guilt, hold yourself accountable to your actions, and fight for any opportunity you get to re-build something you’ve destroyed.
If you get these opportunities…treasure ’em.
PS: Here’s an awesome blog I came across on learning how to trust intelligently – very useful.
